Aiming to be kinder and better in our life and with the people we deal with is an admirable goal, one we could probably all do with (I know I can). However, kindness comes from kindness, and it all starts with something call self-compassion. We need to be kind and good to ourself first, because if you are content and positive being kind and understanting with others comes easily.
Non of the things you mark yourself down for resonate with me - DW conversations are conversations equal conversation with my friends, you talk about what moves you, annoyes you and amuses you, and it is how humans digest what happens to them and shapes how they think and feel. Those things do not really happen if you just mull stuff over in your own head. So you decided that you want to be kinder and more understanding with an older relative? That's great! But would you have come to that conclusion if you hadn't posted you immidiate reaction? Maybe not.
I think this is one of the negative things of our internet/social media culture - critizing others for perceived fails and pc breaches has become so common that we have become too self-aware and self-censoring.
Self-compassion means being mindful and notice what you do without being harsh, judgmental or critical of yourself - show compassion and understanding to your own shortcomings the way you aim to be kinder to others. One can still conclude that one would like to be or do better next time, but that will be much more likley to actullay happen if one comes from a place of positivity rather than guilt.
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Non of the things you mark yourself down for resonate with me - DW conversations are conversations equal conversation with my friends, you talk about what moves you, annoyes you and amuses you, and it is how humans digest what happens to them and shapes how they think and feel. Those things do not really happen if you just mull stuff over in your own head. So you decided that you want to be kinder and more understanding with an older relative? That's great! But would you have come to that conclusion if you hadn't posted you immidiate reaction? Maybe not.
I think this is one of the negative things of our internet/social media culture - critizing others for perceived fails and pc breaches has become so common that we have become too self-aware and self-censoring.
Self-compassion means being mindful and notice what you do without being harsh, judgmental or critical of yourself - show compassion and understanding to your own shortcomings the way you aim to be kinder to others. One can still conclude that one would like to be or do better next time, but that will be much more likley to actullay happen if one comes from a place of positivity rather than guilt.